You may have heard about all the wonderful benefits of essential oils for your physical body. In fact, far too many people ONLY talk about the physical benefits. Don't get me wrong ...I'm totally guilty of this at times too, mainly because it's TRUE. I've seen and experienced tremendous positive results at the physical level from using Young Living products and oils. From a metaphysical standpoint, however, every physical issue or concern is associated with a mental/emotional imbalance or blockage. The theory says that unhealthy emotions or ways of thinking (they go together by the way) actually precede physical discomforts. As a mental health clinician and a spiritualist I LOVE and endorse this theory. On a daily basis I am witness to how negative emotions and thought patterns have a detrimental impact on physical health, whether that's the result of exaggerated stress responses or unhealthy eating patterns, lack of exercise or a whole host of things. Subscribing to this viewpoint, wouldn't it just make a sense to address the underlying issues, if nothing else, then to just FEEL better? Here are some things to consider.

#1. Smell. I used to think aromatherapy was for "hippies" (I can use that term because I'm one of them...don't judge me) and was a crock - a scam - a waste of time. That was, until I started doing a little research. When you smell something the molecules of the substance travel to the olfactory bulb in your brain, then to your limbic system. Your limbic system is where all of your memories and emotions are stored. This is why smelling something can bring you right back to a time and place in your past. This part of your brain only understands SMELL. It doesn't really understand words.  Can you believe that?  What this means is, that you can proactively use certain aromatics to shift the way you feel and change your relationship with memories. Now, you don't want to just go around inhaling anything! Even things that you may THINK smell good may not necessarily be good for you. I'll use gasoline as an example. Need I say more? So the idea is to use your sense of smell and to inhale substances that are GREAT for your body. Pure. Natural. Nontoxic. Here's where essentials oils come in !

#2. Consistency. As a trauma therapist, it took me quite some time to actually admit that I had suffered my own traumas. That realization has always been just under the surface for me but once admitted I bought a bottle of SARA oil. I applied it several times a day over my Sacral Chakra (lower abdomen just below your belly button). I honestly wasn't expecting very much to happen but it smelled just divine and I loved putting it on. Just the act of applying oils sends the message out that you are ready for healing and positive change. You are setting an intention! So, I used SARA oil for about 3 months and during that time several memories from my past came up but I didn't have any real emotional attachment to them. Some, I had actually forgot had even happened but obviously some part of me was holding onto it. During those 3 months, I felt like my traumas were being gently released from my system. I can't tell you scientifically what happened but I can tell you that I believe the cellular memory of my negative experiences dissipated. All very gently and exactly as I would have wanted. After SARA oil, I moved on to Inner Child and Release and Surrender.  I really made a commitment to using the oils on a daily basis to help me work on the emotional layer of myself.

#3. Liberal Use. Ok. Here's another confession. During many oils classes I've stated, "You don't need to use a lot of oils. You'll probably only use one or two drops at a time." While this may be true SOME of the time, it certainly isn't true for me MOST of the time. I may use 1-2 drops of a particular oil for a particular issues but I also use anywhere from 5-20 oils a day depending on WHAT is going on! See, the oils work synergistically and the more the merrier but it's more than that! What is your goal? My goal is to not only feel better but to DO better and to BE better. Let's talk about vegetables instead of oils. If you want to have a better diet and have more energy, what will bring you this result? Do you just eat broccoli once a week? Do you eat 3 carrots every month? Sounds funny and ridiculous, right? We know the answer is NO. You’d have to eat a variety of vegetables and probably throughout the day to have more energy and to feel better.  What about the gym? Can you expect to lose ten pounds going to the gym once in a blue moon?  Probably NOT! You’d have to make a commitment and be consistent in your fitness plan to reach your weight goal. Using oils for emotional health is really no different. If you are wanting to feel better emotionally then you have to do more than the bare minimum. So I said to myself, what if applying essential oils is VITAL for my self-growth, for my success, for healing and for prosperity. I've come to know that it absolutely IS vital. I'm radically different, in a positive way, than I was three years ago just from using these products. I think differently. I feel differently AND...I'm WAY more empowered. So I oil up every morning, every night and when I want to throughout the day with multiple oils because one oil just isn’t enough for the results I want.  


The bottom line is this, if you think YL Essential Oils are just for physical discomforts you are missing the bigger picture and totally missing out on some HUGE life changing stuff! These oils, unlike herbs which are dried and lacking full life force, are liquid and alive! They contain a living intelligence and consciousness, making them amazing tools for emotional transformation and consciousness expansion. Just like any other change agent, you must commit to using the oils regularly as a ritual or a practice. For sustainable positive change, it really is about lifestyle change. There's no getting around that!  I challenge you to spend some time in reflection to take inventory of the emotional issues you want to address (and your personal goals) and to start to explore YL oil blends that will help you release old patterns and propel you closer to the person you are meant to be. Happy. Healthy. Whole. Oily !   

In love,

Jen Hairston-Davis
 
 

The business of Network Marketing is a mental health clinician's dream! This sounds extremely odd of a statement but when you examine what's involved in the industry you begin to realize that the process of growing such a business is nothing short of a very long and very intense therapy session with yourself.  In fact, I bet 99% of people "quit" their Network Marketing business (or any business endeavor) just for this reason alone. Now, I'm not saying it's right or wrong to quit. There's no judgment here. Just as it's neither wrong or right to be in therapy your whole life (some will argue this point, I know...but work with me). There are some people who choose to be in therapy for a majority of their life, not because they have some great "mental illness" but because they simply want to get better. Become better versions of themselves. It's the small percentage of people who want to be self-actualized and what a beautiful thing that is. In two short years after starting my Network Marketing business, I've become a better version of myself. Here's how...

#1. It changed my relationship with Abundance. Before Network Marketing I had a million misconceptions about what it meant to have money...a lot of money. Thinking about acquiring a large sum of money actually made me anxious. Sounds terrible doesn't it? Sit for a moment and think about getting a $20,000 check in the mail...what feelings does it bring up for you? What would you do with it?!? Specifically, what would you do? See, we are so used to just going from check to check to pay bills and obtain the necessities, that we have yet to create a real plan, in our minds (and on paper) for how exactly we would use money as a tool for progress. In fact, most people say that if they win the lotto, the first thing they would do is give some away to family and friends or spent it on fancy material things.   MOST people do not say, INVEST and pay off debt. It's shocking to me now considering what I have learned. This is exactly why most lotto winners end up broke a short time after their winnings. Their financial situation changed but their mindset did not! I believe my anxiety came from the thought of having more responsibility. To acquire a large sum of money is a large responsibility. You are being entrusted with it, as you are entrusted with other gifts in life. It now becomes your job to ensure the proper allocation and use of it. Thinking about getting a $10,000 check in the mail also raised issues about being "spiritual". How many of us have heard the sayings money is the root of all evil or rich people are evil?  How about the meek shall inherit the Earth or "money doesn't grow on trees"? No wonder most of us are down-right AFRAID of money. AFRAID, I tell you! So how can you really attract something that you are afraid of? You can't! Now, you may attract SOME of it. The some that you absolutely need (and that number is different for all of us) but not the rest that will make you financially abundant. So there was a lot of work I had to do to get out of the fearful mindset and into the abundance mindset. This was not an overnight thing. It was a process like so many other things concerning the progression of the self. The first step was to really LOOK at my fear. I had to really be honest with myself about the dialogue I was having concerning money. It felt like a punch in the stomach since I didn't believe I was really fearful of anything. I mourned my old ways of thinking. In adopting a new mindset you have to GIVE UP your old one and no matter how outdated and unhelpful your old one is, it's familiar and hard to let go. After the mourning process, it was game ON. I entered into a new phase where I began to re-train my mind. Now, anyone can do this in any area of their life. I started with BOTH the conscious and unconscious minds. I wrote out what I wanted my relationship with money to look like and read it daily. After a while, the new script had been memorized and internalized as new truth. I worked on my subconscious mind (the trickier of the two) at night right before bed. I found an awesome abundance meditation (I'll post here for you to use if you wish) that I would listen to while falling asleep. This started to chip away at the underlying fears concerning financial progress. In my opinion, it is VITAL to work on both parts of your mind, especially the subconscious. So much of what we do is controlled by the beliefs embedded in this part of our minds. To really get control of it, you have to go in through “the back door” so to speak. Your brain is still taking in information as you sleep and so listening to material during this time will start to re-program your beliefs.

#2. I became more financially fit. This goes along with number 1. As I studied my mentor and the masters in the industry I found out very important things concerning how they used money. Before they gave a dime to anyone else, they paid themselves FIRST!  A percentage from every check they got went directly to THEM. I started with 10% and put it into a separate savings account which I now call my "Wealth Account". In the words of many mentors, "It’s not how much money you make, it's how much money you keep." So, this is an important practice whether you make $10 an hour or $700 an hour. It's the ritual of paying yourself first that begins to shift how you feel about money, yourself and the world. Robert Kiyosaki, explains this in his book Rich Dad Poor Dad. His rich dad told him that paying yourself first does not mean to neglect your bills. It means that no matter what bills you have, pay yourself first and if you need more money to pay your bills then you will find creative ways to do so AFTER you've paid yourself. This is really the first step in a series of steps to becoming financially fit but it’s an important one. The majority of people I talk to do NOT do this. They pay bills first and then spend what’s left. That means, they have nothing left to save and are not investing in the future. I know I was in this boat too, even when I was fully employed and making decent money. I was STILL living check to check with nothing to show for it and no savings accumulated.  Don’t say I didn’t tell you! Start NOW.

#3. The ways in which I can help people have expanded. As a little girl, I always knew my mission was to help others. I wanted to do that on a BIG scale. Yes, I wanted to save the world! As I grew older, my dream of being able to help massive amounts of people (and especially children who were suffering) diminished. While I pursued a career in healing and helping others, I still had a small desire to do more. I never imagined that starting a Network Marketing business would allow me to do just that. I've been able to help hundreds of people versus a few dozen in two years which is quite the difference. In doing that, I've seen a reversal in arthritic condition of my heart's desire. I now have hope again that I can positively impact people's lives on a larger scale. This is intimately tied into numbers 1 & 2. See, having financial abundance means you can give back in ways that you may not have been able to otherwise. Money becomes a tool to transform the quality of lives of others and fund projects that can have a profound effect on generations to come. It enables you to be MORE of who you are and gives you the power to do what you are truly meant to do in this world but BIGGER. Also, as a therapist, my audience is limited. Because of conflicts of interest and ethical concerns there’s just a whole population of people I actually CAN’T help. At least, not by talk therapy. My Network Marketing business has allowed me to offer something of great value to family and friends that I wouldn’t have been able to offer otherwise, including the opportunity to make additional money.

When I started my Network Marketing business I merely saw it as a way to obtain residual income. Now, residual income is super important, don't get me wrong and Network Marketing is a great way to explore that but there is much much more than meets the eye. Would I have expanded my thinking in the ways that I listed above had I not entered this profession? It's debatable but I gather not. Would my vision for more widespread change be reawakened had I not stuck it out or had I not said Yes, I'll try this 'in the first place? Highly unlikely. These are just SOME of the ways that I've grown as a result of my Network Marketing business. Of course, there is much more I can say about how my mindset, attitudes and behaviors have radically changed. A lot more. But my point is this, if you have an opportunity to grow...DO IT. If it's uncomfortable, DO IT ANYWAY. In fact, it’s SURE to be uncomfortable. If you are unsure of yourself, then GO FOR IT. It's is only by going through that we get over that which we are afraid of. We are here to grow and change for the better every day, whether we are in a therapist’s office or staring straight in the mirror in the comfort of our home. For the betterment of humanity, our communities, our families, our children and our selves we have to continue to make progress and work on the self. Find ways to do that. Find things that stir up new found uncomfortability in you so you can rise to the occasion and develop new insights and skills. If you’re in Network Marketing please know that you signed up for on-going psychotherapy and if you’re one of us people who are just plain addicted to the path of self-actualization…let’s DO THIS !  

In love,

Jen Hairston-Davis